Most of us who are now in our thirties heard this phrase as children. It carried everything at once: fear, shame, and tough motivation. Our parents were raised through prohibitions and intimidation, and they passed this method down to us.
That’s how a simple belief got rooted in the subconscious of an entire generation: “to survive, you must study, work hard, and cling to stability”.
This is why so many of us today struggle to imagine life outside the classic path: school → university → a 9-to-5 job. Any step aside feels risky. Running your own business, freelancing, or pursuing creativity is often labeled “unreliable”. And even when we secretly crave something more, there’s still that inner voice whispering: “don’t stick out, or you’ll end up with nothing”.
These parental scenarios play out in adulthood in different ways.
- Some endure a job they hate for decades, too afraid to lose steady income.
- Some deny themselves dreams, believing “better to live modestly than end up with nothing”.
- Some never allow themselves more than the bare mini- mum — because that feels “safer”.
But here’s the truth: those fears aren’t truly ours. They are ancestral and cultural imprints, planted in us from childhood. They reflect the experiences of generations who endured scarcity, repression, and loss. Their truth was about survival.
Ours can be different — about growth, choice, and abundance.
In my work with people, I help them see and release those old inherited beliefs that hold them in fear or limitation. In individual sessions, you’ll experience your own transformation: set bold goals, find inner resources, and move toward your dream.
I know this isn’t easy — I’ve walked this path myself. And that’s why I can make it easier, lighter, and more joyful for you. You are capable of more than you think. I’m here to support and empower you.
Olena Lototska
Mentor, “Chaos Curator”,
making your transformation light and natural
Phone +48 788 472 324
